And the Lord God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him.{Genesis 2:18 }

“A GOOD MAN IS HARD TO FIND” was the name of a play. That statement is not true, because it all depends on what you are looking for, who you are looking for, and most importantly who you are looking to for this good man. When you begin your search, who do you go to and where do you go? If you want a house you go to a realtor, or a car you go to the dealer. So if you want a good man why not go to the One who creates and manufactures good men, the One who knows their hearts. You don’t know what they look like, because you can’t see their hearts.

The problem with society we look and judge people by their outward appearance, while God by-passes all that and looks at the heart and mind of a person ( 1 Samuel 16:7 & Psalms 7:9). That’s one of the reasons why we have so many divorces. We are looking with lustful eyes, and lust thirsty flesh, then when we wake up to reality, we are trapped with babies, bills, and sometimes diseases, or headaches, heartaches, and strife, when all we had to do was go to the source(God) from the start and wait for confirmation regarding the individual and relatonship. That’s the reason most of us are in a mess, we are always in a hurry to hit the sack or get married, without consulting our Creator.

“The steps of a good man are ordered by the Lord.” So ladies did you put your order or request in to the Lord? Philippians 4:6 states, “Be anxious for nothing, but in everything, by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving, let your request be made known unto God.”  So did you put your request in to God? This applies to both men and women who are seeking a God-fearing mate, a righteous mate, a loving mate, a kind mate, and a good mate. Don’t request a mate from your friends or family, most of them can’t even choose for themselves much less you, and they can’t see the heart or intent of a person, but God can. Why don’t you try Him(God) for a change.

A good man will never leave or forsake you, because his steps are ordered by the Lord. Read it for yourself, Psalm 37:23-24 says it clearly, “The steps of a good man is ordered by the Lord, and He (God) delights in his way; though he fall, he shall not be utterly cast down, for the Lord upholds him with His hand.” There it is, as plain as day, what more can I say, that scripture says it all.
A good man out of the good treasure of the heart bringeth forth good things: and an evil man out of the evil treasure bringeth forth evil things.
《Matthew 12:35 》

However, I must inform you that this promise is only for those who serve, love, and trust Him(God) with all their heart. You will not get a good man if you don’t put God first, because if you are going to replace God with a good man, then a good man will be very hard to find, but I can guarantee that the devil will have plenty no good ones for you.

One thing you must understand, a good man does not lure you into his nest with the trinkets of the world like money, jewelry, clothes, etc. You will be attracted to him because of his love for God, and if he follows Jesus’s examples, acknowledge God in all his ways, one who prays without ceasing, who walks by faith and not by sight, then trust me he will love you as he loves himself, because he is following the Masters order and plans. The question is can you handle a good man? Can you love him as he loves Christ, without wanting to replace God? Listen up and hear me well, because he is committed to God he will be committed to you, because he is faithful to God, he will be faithful to you. Because he has to answer to God, and that whipping he can’t handle.

If you are looking for someone to satisfy your earthly desires and selfish needs and wants, then don’t ask or look to God for a man, just continue looking in the world, the devil has a few choices lined up for you, which will take you straight to hell with them. No, I am not being harsh or bitter it’s the truth. If you are not serving God, or committed to Him by presenting your bodies as living sacrifices that is Holy and acceptable unto Him, which is your reasonable service (Romans 12:1-2); Then don’t waste your time or bother to ask Him for anything, because only the effectual fervent prayers of the righteous availed much (James 5:16 b), is this you? A righteous person?

However, you can change your status with God by accepting His priceless and best gift of all eternity; His only begotten son Jesus( John 3:16), and confessing with your mouth that He is the Lord Jesus, and shall believe in thine heart, that God has raised Him from the dead thou shalt be saved (Romans 10:9-13). Are you interested? Then let’s get started. Go to the top of this blog, click on to the salvation page, and follow the instructions, it will be the best man you ever find, who was willing to die for you, then you will find an earthly one who will do the same for you, because God sent him.

Now unto Him who is able to keep us from falling and to present us faultless, before the presence of His glory with exceeding joy, to the only wise God, our Savior, be glory, praise, honor and thanks for using me to deliver His message to His children. May He give everyone the spiritual necessities to receive His messages and act accordingly. In Jesus name I pray, Amen.


Sometimes people who are in a position of authority like to use the phrase “It’s my way or the high way” which normally lets you know, by default, who is in control. Now, what I wonder is if God said “it’s my way or hell” would we still consider Him to be loving and kind? God, being the creator of all, has all the right in the world to use that terminology because He is in charge. Only God has the power of life and death in His hands.

In life, we must realize that even though we desire, want and pray for things if it is not in God’s will or plans, we will not get it. This is when  we need to realize that He is in control of everything. God is the C.E.O. of the entire world, master of the universe, therefore it is not what we want but what God wants for us. It’s not what we think but what God thinks. We need to come to an understanding that we do not have the final word, He does.

In Isaiah 55:8-9, God clearly lets us know that,”His thoughts are not our thoughts, neither are His ways like ours.” He then tells us that the distance is, “as far as the heavens are from the earth, that is how far apart our thoughts and ways are.” 1 Samuel 16:7 relates to this by saying, “The Lord does not see things as man sees it; for man looks at the outward appearance, but the Lord looks at the heart.”

Most of us are control freaks, yes we are all guilty of this, who have to be in control of everything and everyone.  However, Proverbs 16:1-9 tells us that we can make all the preparations we want but when it comes down to the end of the last quarter God has the final answer/say. A mans heart devises his way but only the Lord can direct his steps. It is when we commit our works unto the Lord that He establishs our thoughts. Proverbs 3 :5-6 tells us not to lean on our own understanding but to acknowledge Him in all our ways and once we acknowledge him he will direct us. We have to be able to trust Him just as much as we think we can trust our friends, spouse and parents.

We must lose control, we have to give it up, we need to relinquish it and put it all in Gods hands.  In order for us to be a success we must understand that when a mans ways please the Lord He makes even that mans enemies be at peace with him. It’s when you try to go against Gods plans that life throws you a curve ball and becomes difficult and overbearing. Then, with that curve ball being thrown in your direction, instead of being blessed you are stressed beyond words.

You will never be in control until you take Gods advice and cast all your burdens and cares onto him (Psalm 55:22 ; 1 Peter 5:7). You have to enjoy the peace that only He can give. If you don’t know about God and the special gift of His son (Jesus Christ) that John 3 :16 tells us about then go to the top of this blog. Please click on to the salvation page and follow the instructions. It will be the best thing you have ever done and you as well as God, our father, will be joyful.

Thank you God for using me to get your message out to all those who need your love and guidance.