It’s so easy to blame the other person when a marriage or relationship is shattered or in turmoil. It’s even worse when people fail to realize that if God is not present, nor acknowledged then the devil is. Playing the blame game is not the solution to the problem, it’s one of the devils tactics to take the focus off of defeating him, and eradicating him out of our lives. One thing for certain is that the devil hates marriages, because it reminds him of Jesus’ connection to the body of Christ (the church), so he invented same-sex marriages to taunt and mock Jesus. We need to realize that when God is the center of our lives and we love, fear, and obey Him; then the fruit of the Spirit will be in operation which are: love, joy, peace, long-suffering, gentleness, goodness, faith, meekness, and self-control (Galatians 5:22-23).
However, when the devil is present in a marriage or relationship, you will find that people are lovers of their own selves more than lovers of God, covetous, boasters, proud, blasphemers, disobedient to parents, unthankful, unholy, without natural affections (2 Timothy 3:2-6). The solution to this growing problem is not to blame or point fingers, it’s to identify who or what is the main cause, which is the devil and his henchmen, who blind your eyes, and entice you into sin, therefore if you submit to God and resist the devil, he will have to flee, and if you and your spouse draw near to God He will draw near to you as James 4:7-8 reminds us. It’s so simple, if God put you together then no one can divide you (Mark 10:9). So why would you allow the devil to come into your lives and destroy it, stop playing the blame game and gang up on the true enemy and defeat him.
It’s so sad when couples look to people in the church for help, for solutions, and advice about their relationship and later that private information about the couple is used in a sermon to trample you under their feet with smirks on their faces; which reminds you that they are not God. Jesus told us in Matthew 7:6 ,”Give not that which is holy unto dogs, neither cast your pearls before swine, lest they trample them under their feet and turn again and lacerate you.” Then you better learn to go on your knees for yourself and cry unto God, who is a present help in time of trouble and need, because no one can answer for God, He does not need an advisor nor instructor. He is God all by Himself, and if you are walking in righteousness, you need to know that the effectual fervent prayer of the righteous availeth much (James 5:16). God is able to do exceedingly abundantly above all that we may ask or think,according to the power that worketh in us (Ephesians 3:20).
A marriage should be founded on Christ the solid rock, in order for it to last, with both of you looking to Jesus the author and finisher of both your faith. Without the triangle of God as the head, then the husband and the wife, with both of you looking and seeking the creator for answers in unity then you will allow the other fellow to come in and steal, kill and destroy your lives, home, and children. Stop fussing, fighting, blaming, and pointing fingers at each other, and join forces on your knees to destroy the enemy. The devil is already defeated, you just have to keep him defeated.
Now unto Him who is able to keep us from falling, and to present us faultless before the presence of His glory with exceeding joy. To the only wise God, Our Savior, be glory, honor, praise, and thanks for using me His humble servant to relay this message to His children. To Him be dominion and power, both now and forever, in Jesus’ mighty name, Amen.